Day Twenty

DAY TWENTY
Sharing
The point of life is to share it with others, or at the very least, with another. Into The Wild was a great movie, but if that movie taught us anything, it taught us that Eddie Vedder is awesome and being and dying alone is not awesome. So, let me keep this short and simple. Yes, we’ve all been hurt. Yes we’ve all been alone. And yes, almost all of us have been with another. If you are with another now, I implore you, love that other like you’ve never loved before and see in them the love that they give you. It is the source of everything and you deserve every bit of it. If you are not with another, your other is out there, waiting to love you, whether you see the other or not. Sometimes you find this other without looking. Sometimes this other is looking for you and you may not even know it. Sometimes this other is looking for you looking for them—as bizarre and unbelievable as that sounds. If someone is throwing themselves at you, consider deeply what this other is to you, what they have deep inside, and what it is they must see in you to continue to do this.

We are not meant to be alone. It is neither in our nature nor in our DNA. Find this other and you will find ultimate happiness. It is often through others that we discover the greatest characteristics about ourselves. This is proof that another completes us, fulfills our destiny—that life is to be shared.

Imagine the funniest joke you’ve ever heard. Now imagine that you want to tell someone else that joke but there is no one to tell. The joke suddenly becomes less funny because you don’t have the benefit, the additive benefit of sharing it. The same holds true with life events. What if you got a major promotion at your job. It was everything you wanted and more, you want to tell everyone you know, especially those closest to you. Now, imagine having no one to tell. It suddenly makes the event less because you can’t reach out and share your joy with others, with another. For most of us, there are always others (friends, family, acquaintances, etc.) but for many of us, there is not that one other, that one person who sees you in a way that the rest of the world doesn’t, that person who knows you better than anyone else, sometimes better than you know yourself. To share with that person, whomever he or she may be, is more meaningful than sharing with any other. This person has a large piece of you within them and vice versa, so to share with this person is to share, more deeply, with oneself.

So today, I tell you, as I desperately am out of convincing, love your other. Whether they see you for what you are or not, whether they see themselves for how you see them, never stop loving. For when you do, you are alone. And that is not what we are meant to be.

Today’s task: acknowledge this love in another. Give it to another. Love and be loved and for the sake of everything that is holy, do not suffer alone. If you do not have your other, yet, your other is out there. I assure you.

I love you. Yes, you. I always have and I always will. Everything I do is to demonstrate this love for you. Solitude is not the answer; being alone In The Wild, is not the answer; love, that is the answer, but love that is reciprocated. Until tomorrow, love like never before.