Day Eighteen

DAY EIGHTEEN
Love: the glue that binds
Of all the emotions known to us, love is not only the strongest and most important, but it is the primary catalyst for the Law of Attraction. With love, in all respects, we can attract anything we want into our lives and can be guaranteed a life full of happiness. In fact, love is so critical to the concept of the Law of Attraction that often times the Law is simply referred to as the Law of Love. Today I want to discuss the power of love, and the power it has in our lives by keeping everything “glued” together, so to speak. Love is the glue that binds all other emotions, and if we are devoid of love in any aspect in our lives, despite being happy and content in all other areas, we can still suffer unhappiness. Thus, it is important for us to properly assess the areas in our lives that we find unhappiness and to determine how much love exists in that area. Surely if you experience unhappiness, you are lacking love.
The concept I want to use to describe love, in the way in which it enters into our lives and holds everything together, involves thinking of emotions, reactions, actions, thoughts, etc. on a sliding scale. Imagine a scale designed to gauge forms of happiness in every aspect of your life. Now imagine this scale representing 0 through 100, where 0 is misery and depression, and 100 is complete bliss. Let’s look at a few examples to further clarify this point. Consider the following:

Financial Happiness (FH)
0---------50--------100

Spiritual Happiness (SH)
0---------50--------100

Relationship Happiness (RH)
0---------50--------100

Health Happiness (HH)
0---------50--------100

These are just a few examples, but together they represent a major part of our lives. Now let’s put this example into play: let’s say that your (FH) is at 80. It’s at 80 because you have the money you need, but maybe you just received an unexpected bill that requires more money than you have at the moment. It causes you a little worry. You aren’t distraught, or even unhappy (below 50) because you know you can find the money, but it was unexpected and it occupies your thoughts (maybe you might not want to even pay it because you had other plans for the money). Let’s keep the example easy and say that your (SH) and (HH) are at 100, so nothing to work on there, but let’s say you have a genuine source of unhappiness in your (RH). Let’s say it’s at 25. That’s quite low, it’s below 50, so you are clearly unhappy. But why? To make the example easy, I’ve lumped all relationships into this category, and that might not be wholly accurate, but for the sake of the example it works. You have good relationships with your children (if you have them) and those are at 100; you have good relationships with your friends and family (also at 100); but you do not have a special someone in your life. This creates a sensation of loneliness and a void in this area. As a result, you suffer unhappiness that this void exists and is not being filled. Again, this is just an example. I am not saying that you need to be in a relationship to be happy. For this example, I’m assuming the person we are describing desires to be in a relationship and struggles because s/he is not. So, in total, just from a quick glance, we have 80, 100, 100, and 25. We aren’t really operating within the realms of math in this sense, so the total is not simply the sum of the numbers. What we are focusing on is the areas of unhappiness. We can ignore the 80, for this example (later I’ll discuss how to keep areas above 50 as close to 100 as possible) but we definitely need to focus on the 25.

Before we delve into how to address this issue and why it’s happening at all, it’s important to understand that even though we can be happy in all other areas of our life, even one area of unhappiness can affect our overall happiness. Even one area of unhappiness, if significant enough, can bring us down and cause an overall unhappiness. This doesn’t mean that the 100s become less, this simply means that our attention is focused solely on the issue at hand, so overall happiness is temporarily halted and replaced by what it is that is currently concerning us (thus, it makes no sense to add all the numbers together because for those that are above 50, we don’t care about those while we suffering with those below 50). Obviously, the more areas we have of unhappiness, not only the more unhappy we are, but the harder it becomes to address these issues because the more we have on our mind. But rest assured, the solution is simple, in theory, and it applies the same to all situations.

Now, back to the unhappiness in our relationship example. This person is unhappy because s/he wants to be in a relationship, perhaps because s/he is at the stage where that makes the most sense and would add to his/her overall happiness (because sharing the best parts of one’s life with another truly is the most rewarding and amazing experience). This person does not have that, as a result has a void, and consequently suffers unhappiness. How can we resolve this? The answer is love. But wait, love, in a very exact sense, is what is missing, how can love fix itself? That is The Secret. The answer: give love, in all areas of your life, and you will receive love, in all areas of your life. It is slightly more complicated than this, as it does involve employing the Law of Attraction in all ways, but the principle holds true. If you give money without worry (even if paying a bill!) and you give it with love, money will return to you, out of the love in the Universe, as you need it. If you give love in your faith, whatever that may be and whatever you personally call it, then your faith will come back stronger because of love. If you pursue your health with a love for yourself and body, mind, spirit, then your health will be refined and given back in abundance by the power of love. And lastly, if you pursue love in your life with love, it will come to you, it will find you, from the love you offer. Effectively, you will get back what you put in. And unlike a machine where the output is less than the input, the Universe is perfect, you get back exactly what you put in. But the more areas you put love into, the greater it will come back to you.

If you are with me so far, I’m going to flip this all on its head. Remember when I said that we can’t add each area together and take the sum of them all? Well, I said that because that’s probably what you believe. We all are predisposed to believing that. Negativity is all around us. It’s in the news, it’s on the radio, it’s on the television, it’s in our friends, family—it’s everywhere. The reason I said we can’t do that is because most of us focus on what’s wrong in our lives and not so much on what’s right. If we have something come along that we aren’t prepared for, it can derail us, it can take away our focus, and we forget about what’s important. Now, don’t get me wrong, I’m not saying that those areas of concern aren’t important, I’m saying they aren’t everything. Everything is everything, hence the name. Thus, we can and should add all areas together so that we have proper perspective. To maintain focus, we should realize that any area of unhappiness is simply an area, a detail, if you will, not the big picture. And if the rest of your life is going well, then the big picture is a good picture. My point here is that if we can maintain focus on the good things—the positive, then we promote more positivity in our lives—even in those areas that aren’t positive. Make sense?

So let’s go back to our example. Let’s add all the areas together: 80+100+100+25. Now, I did say before that lumping the relationships together might have been inaccurate. Here is where that’s true. If you don’t have love in your life, as in this example, but you have great relationships with your friends, family, children, co-workers, etc. then you aren’t going to ignore those areas of strength and support, and you aren’t going to act negatively towards any of those people because you don’t have what you want, are you? Of course not. So that 25 is a bit off because it’s 25 out of at least 4 or 5 other areas that could all be 100s. Keep that in mind in this example. So 80+100+100+25 is 305. 305/4 is 76.25. In school, that would be a C+, that’s passing. We are much more happy than not. But see how one area alone can bring us down, quite significantly? And see how an 80, which on its own is rather remarkable also brings down the overall number? That’s why we need to focus on keeping everything as high as possible, and when you do that, it’s not about the numbers, it’s about love. Give more love and get better results. Don’t sweat the unexpected bill, pay it with love and forget about it. You have great spiritual health and fantastic health. Your life is going very well. Bills are a part of life (just keep them out of your bedroom, wink) so let them be that. All of the rest of your relationships are going well, and yes, it’s hard when you have struggles, but love itself will give more love—it’s a law, just like gravity. Have faith in that and let the warmth fill your body until that void fills itself. Love, when given in all areas of your life, comes back to you (in all areas of life). 

Take a minute. Absorb. Now, to sum it all up. Regularly take stock of how you are doing in your life, focus on the positive, don’t let the negative eat at you, those areas are simply devoid of love. All you have to do is add some more glue to the holes, or add love to the negative areas, and it all comes together.

Today’s task is to understand this. Come back to it as often as you need. I make it sound simple, but that’s because it is. Let me show you: 

Dear Reader: I want to thank you so much for giving me a few moments of your time. You personally make me feel so happy, incredibly worthwhile, and you validate that I have something to say. If I can reach only one person, beyond myself, then I have done something. It is with immense gratitude that I thank you for lending me your time. I offer you in return everything I hold deep and sacred in my heart so that you too may find peace, love, and happiness in your life. All of my love.

This is nothing less than complete love. I give it freely and it returns to me in abundance, in all areas of my life. 

Thank you again for reading. I wish that everything you desire shall always be yours. Love.